We have come a long way since this post, but Aviana is still a high needs child. It surprises me though, these days, because generally speaking, our days are joy filled and I adore the time spent with my oldest. She is still that baby inside, and still needs help with self control, still needs extra cuddles, still needs to know unconditionally that I am her number one fan. Today has been one of those off days.
About the third time she yelled at Brielle this morning, before I was even out of bed, she came in to snuggle with me and get recharged. She told me she was having a bad day. I prayed with her and for her and for me. Overall, the times she has lost it are nothing like they used to be!
She is still on the verge of crying because one of the the apple slices touched the peanut butter on the plate, which is on the plate to dip her apples in! She still almost has a fit because the overalls she wants to wear are in the wash and too wet to wear. She still is upset when she can’t fit on my lap like she would like, or has to share with her sister, or gets her overalls pulled up wrong, or…
I am reminded of when I have days like this, and my Heavenly Father cozies me into His lap and reassures me that He has it all under control. He has me in the palm of His hand. There’s nothing to fret about, nothing to worry about. He cares for me beyond measure. I just need to calm down and bask in this Love.
So that is what we are doing, snuggling and reassuring my precious, precocious off kilter three and a half year old what a gift she is, and how much I care for her and take care of her. And it’s mostly working!
Your daughter are mine could be twins. Seriously! Mine is the same way, only younger. I totally understand how you feel and I really appreciate your insight with this. How often we are “high need” or “over stimulated” but God will hold us through it all. Thank you so much!
I LOVE READING THAT ANOTHER MOTHER TAKES THIS APPROACH!!! SOMETIMES ALL THOSE LIL’ ONES NEED IS A HUG FROM THEIR MOMMA OR DADDY! I’M SO TIRED OF HEARING ABOUT CHILDREN BEING PUNISHED CONSTANTLY!! (GRANTED, THERE ARE TIMES THEY NEED TO EXPERIENCE CONSEQUENCES…HOWEVER, I FULLY BELIEVE IN APPROACHING MY SON OUT OF LOVE. AND AFTER MY VERY LIMITED THREE YEARS OF “CHILD-REARING”, I’M ABLE TO SEE THAT A LOT OF WHAT I’VE DONE HAS PAID OFF.) HAVE A GOOD DAY LOVIN’ ON YOUR BABIES!