I’ve been thinking about organized friendships.
Like Book Clubs. Like Mary Jane’s Farmgirl Sisterhood. Like message boards and Facebook. Like MOPS or MOMS groups. Like 4-H or Clover Kids. Home school groups. Bible studies.
I can’t decide what I think. Sometimes I think I’d really like to join everything, as each club seems to serve a different purpose.
Book club is just an excuse to get out at night once a month with some friends. And I love to read.
I love the idea of Mary Jane’s Farmgirl Sisterhood. Of getting rewarded, albeit marginally, for learning new things, improving myself if you will. Of course, I wouldn’t want to do it just by myself–I’d love to have a real life friend do it with me. Plus they have a branch for little girls too, so Aviana could join in on the fun.
The message boards and Facebook are nice because it allows me to check in with real people at random times throughout the day. It allows me to interact with grown ups when I’m surrounded by ankle biters. It allows me feedback without the commitment of face-to-face.
MOPS and MOMS group have been huge in my life as ways to meet people. Planned interaction. Organized conversation. A jumping off point of commonality.
4-H is something I know nothing about but am expected to embrace as a farm wife. Clover Kids is the club for Aviana’s age. The jury is still out if I’m going to start participating her this early.
Home school groups are, as far as I can tell, another point of connection between people with homeschooling in common. I’m not active in one yet, but I think it will prove to be a good support.
I’ve been in several Bible studies over the years, but never had a friendship “stick” as a result of meeting someone in a group like that. It always seems artificial and a little stilted to me, even though I usually enjoy the study.
Sometimes I think just letting friendship grow naturally is best.
But then, when you’re home with your kids all day, how do you meet people? Stalk people at the local library? (Not that I’ve ever done that!)
I don’t know what I think. Be a joiner? Not? As always, finding a medium that works for me is probably going to be my best solution.