** On being included**We had a play date today at a big bounce house type place. I was there for a while before the girls I was meeting arrived. Another mom’s group was also there.
You may not know this, but I’m what you would call an extrovert. An outgoing type person. It’s usually not at all difficult for me to walk up to a total stranger and introduce myself. New situations, new people don’t make me feel uncomfortable, just curious, and sometimes energized.
I spoke briefly to one of the moms from the other group when we were at the check in together, but once the other moms got here, I just hung out with my kids, because it’s been my experience that moms groups are generally (hopefully inadvertently) exclusionary, and there doesn’t seem to be much of a point trying to talk to them.
Imagine my surprise, when not one, not two, but THREE of the moms came up to me separately to introduce herself and invite me to join them. That’s what it should be like! Since I’m nearly always on the introducing/extending end of meeting people, I truly had no idea how good that felt to be invited and welcomed.
**On bleeding**Several articles in Mothering made me really think. One was about making your daughter’s menarche (first period) a wonderful rite of passage. It never even occurred to me to celebrate this transition to womanhood, or do anything special at all. I wonder what that could look like.
One was about cloth pads. I never really thought about that before, even though we part-time cloth diaper. A woman will produce 300 pounds of menstrual waste in her lifetime. I may have to buy some or make some.
One was about tilted uteri. I was told I had one when I was about 19, and that I might have trouble getting pregnant. That was all. My mom said she was told the same thing, but she never had any trouble at all. We did try for a long time (to us) for Aviana, but didn’t have any problems conceiving our other babies.
But not one of my practitioners in my history, ever mentioned any other problems a tilted uterus might cause. These include headaches/migraines, painful periods, chronic constipation, lower back ache among a host of others. Most of these problems I have had have been immensely helped by nutrition, but it would have been nice to know this before now! There is an interesting massage technique that has been shown to help many, many women.
(the above links are just ones I found relating to the topic)
**On math** I do not have a mathematical mind at all, but I think my oldest does. I want to provide her with an empowering math program, but I am completely stymied on what to get. I know it’s just primary math. I know I can switch if we don’t like it. I know it’s really not that big of deal. But still. I seem to be paralyzed in choosing. Something. Anything.
**On Canada** The Canadians are no longer being forced to have a Cesarean for a breech baby like American women are. Go Canada!