I first learned about baby wearing when Aviana was a newborn. Someone had given me a padded ring sling, and I tried to wear her on walks and when we were out and about. She was an extremely fussy baby and it seemed to work better than leaving her in her car seat carrier when we were running errands.
I didn’t like that particular sling though. I found it extremely uncomfortable and annoying. I still tried to utilize it as much as possible because I wasn’t aware of other options. When she was about 9 months old, I read Dr. Sears book, The Fussy Baby and High Needs Child. I cried all the way through it simply because someone finally identified with me. I finally knew I wasn’t crazy or doing anything wrong and this was just who she was.
Babywearing is one of the things Dr. Sears recommends to all parents, but especially to those who have high-needs children.
It’s worked wonders in our family.
Baby wearing is helpful for me because I can
- do household chores while soothing and quieting my baby
- keep the baby close and happy while playing with my other children
- breastfeed hands free
- walk or do the gazelle while the baby naps on me (extra points for more weight right?)
- be treated to an easier outing with a sling or wrap than with the heavy carseat
Baby wearing is helpful for the baby because
- worn babies cry less
- he spends more time in a quiet alert state while carried and that’s the ideal state for learning
- his senses are stimulated, yet he can retreat
- he sees the world from our perspective
- he can quickly develop a sense of trust and security
- it helps newborns adapt to life on the outside
And I’ve since found out, it’s even helpful for moms who are depressed! I had a pretty severe case of post-partum psychosis after Brielle’s birth, so it’s good I wore her, even though I didn’t know that would be a benefit to me.
(the research footnotes are here.)
I like our bouncy seat and our swing, and the exersaucer is helpful too, but my favorite is to wear the baby. I have lots of options: the only kind I have yet to get is a true ring sling. I need to try one out first before I fork over the dough. I’m cheap like that.
Aviana at 2 1/2 and Cadrian at 6 weeks in my homemade wraps (simply long pieces of cotton) One of my friends calls this multi one my bed sheet. ;-)-photo by Aviana-
Brielle in the MeiTai at six months–a friend of my sister’s made this for me for about $35.
Dancing at the Labor Day festival with Cadrian in the New Native Carrier, a one piece sling. Smudgy picture thanks to Miss B’s greasy fingers on the lens.