Perhaps you wondered what prompted my breastfeeding poll?
There’s a new show on ABC called What Would You Do? On tonight’s episode, they will have actresses pose as breast feeding moms, and managers (also actors) berating or harassing them, to see what the other people in the restaurant or coffee shop will do. You can see a clip of the show here.
Kevin and I had a discussion about it, because he said he is a little uncomfortable knowing someone is breastfeeding, even though he is married to a lactivist. He was trying to make an analogy of, if someone was doing something sexual under the table, and you could tell it was going on, even if you couldn’t see it, you would feel uncomfortable.
While it’s true, I would feel uncomfortable in that situation; the analogy I don’t get.
Breastfeeding is NOT sexual. I think part of the reason people feel “uncomfortable” is because they just aren’t familiar enough with it, don’t see it, and can’t help but think of breasts as sexual entities. This, in my opinion, is due to cultural conditioning.
It’s unfortunate, but we have made bottle feeding the norm in this country, not breastfeeding. And the only way to make breastfeeding normal and natural again, is for more moms to choose breastfeeding as the option for their babies. For that to happen, women need to feel supported by their moms, their peer groups, and by strangers at a cafe.
For the record, I have never once, in my nearly 5 years of breastfeeding, been given any indication someone has been uncomfortable, or been made to feel like I am being rude by nursing my baby. And I have nursed everywhere. Literally. Everywhere. I use a neck to torso cover when babe is tiny and we’re both getting used to the process, so parts don’t show; but once we are both pros at it, latch-on takes place in under five seconds and I skip the blanket part.
And also for the record, if you tried everything to nurse, but couldn’t, this isn’t about you. Please accept my condolences on the loss of your nursing relationship.