Sweet Miss Mandy is looking for stories on how you celebrate the differences between you and your husband. I’m wondering where to start. Do you remember this ? That is Kevin and me all the way.
He is country through and through. I thought I would marry someone who wore a suit to work; instead, his clothes are permanently dirty. I wanted to attend fancy parties but now dressing up is not wearing jeans.
I love to entertain or go out dancing (well, not right now). He would be fine with staying home every night. I’m totally a night owl and he likes to get up and brag about how he gets more done before 9 a.m. than most people do all day.
I need interaction with others and feedback; he’s totally an internal processor. I make decisions on the spur of the moment or because of emotion and he needs practically forever to decide even as something as simple (to me) as whether or not to attend a certain social function.
I like fashion. If it’s clean, he wears it.
I could go on and on, but I’m sure you get the idea.
We sometimes wonder why God brought us together when we are so different and have such a hard time understanding each other. One of the main keys to overcoming our differences is working on our communication. Kevin is becoming better at speaking Jessica-ese and I have been working on my accent so I’m more able to talk in a way he understands. It has taken lots of practice and lots of fights and lots of prayer and lots of forgiveness to get to where we are today. I can only hope in another six years we are communicating even better.
Also, I have to recommend The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. My reading that and employing several of her ideas and philosophies literally revolutionized our marriage.