As I move into my middle thirties, and more into the role of mothering, and more into being God’s girl and a family woman, I am finding I don’t know what to wear.
When I was a child, I wore a lot of hand-me-downs and my parents couldn’t afford to dress us like everyone else. I remember the sting of being made fun of because I was wearing the “boy” jeans my dad had bought for me on sale, instead of the Gloria Vanderbilts it seemed like all the “in” girls wore.
As a teen, I was always trying to be unique and different; sporting purple glasses, making my own jeans, being the first one at my school to wear Doc Martens. I still got made fun of, but I wore it as a badge of honor.
Then in college, I was caught up in trying to fit in; working at a super rich country club, trying on Polo and Izod for size, but still trying to find “me”.
As a young career woman in the teaching profession, I wanted to be comfortable and yet stylish. I impressed my students by never wearing the same outfit. Seriously.
I’ve been trying to move beyond the materialism I bought into for so long. So for a long while, I refused to buy anything new.
Now however, my closet is a mishmash of sizes and styles. I’ve got romantic gypsy type skirts, lots of kinds of jeans along with an assortment of flannel pants, yoga suits, lounge wear. I’ve got cardigans and sweaters, sweatshirts and turtlenecks.
I have been doing a lot of browsing today, trying to figure out what I like. What would be cute on my body. What would be me. I’ve taken some quizzes. I’ve looked at catalogs. I’ve read style sites.
Surprisingly, because this isn’t the wardrobe I currently have at all, it appears I am a classic traditionalist. Is this like L.L. Bean/Land’s End? One of the quizzes said my style icons would be Gwyneth Paltrow, Halle Berry and Grace Kelly.
This pleases me, but I have no idea what to do now.
How do I begin? What do I get rid of? Where do I shop? Do you think this reflects what you know of my personality?
Please, help me define my style!